When I was little, I remember seeing an old interview with George Foreman (the boxer), where he talked about growing up poor. Except he didn’t think of himself as poor, ‘cause I guess no child ever does. So when his mom could only afford to bring home one cheeseburger from Burger King for dinner, which he and his many brothers and sisters had to slice up like a pizza and divide between them, he just thought of it as normal.
It wasn’t that his family was poor, he said, it’s just that only rich people could afford to have an entire Burger King cheeseburger to themselves. That kind of childhood, by the way, is one of the reasons he became overweight pretty much as soon as he had money to feed himself.
Alright, so I definitely wasn’t THAT bad, and I’m not here to say I was. George has got me beat, and as far as I’m concerned, he’s welcome to all the damn cheeseburgers he wants now. But looking back now, I do of course realize that my family was low-income.
It was the kind of situation where we ate a lot of hot dogs (chicken & pork) and instant mac & cheese, even if I did get proper-sized meals to myself. I still struggled after growing up, and I still remember my first job at Wendy’s. Just over minimum wage, and for awhile I had to get by on that income alone. Yeah, not easy.
When I Discovered Sugaring
I first heard about sugaring one day when I was bored and messing around on my computer, and no lie, I didn’t even believe it was a thing. I mean, rich guys paying me just to go out on dates with them? I knew that wealthy people liked to throw their money around, but this just had to be too good to be true. But I was curious, and browsed around on the web, and there was no question that these men were serious.
It didn’t take too long for me to find my first sugar daddy, and when I did, I went all-out. He was an older, refined gentleman, and I felt way out of my league, so I didn’t want to disappoint him. He made it clear pretty early on that he was looking for a relationship, and I did my best to offer him that.
This meant really getting to know him and opening myself up to him as well, but I didn’t mind, especially when (frankly) I saw just how much money started coming in. This was enough to change my life.
Still, this sugar daddy was married, as most are, and he insisted that it was only fair I should also have a regular boyfriend while seeing him. That set the stage for all my sugar relationships; I always took them seriously, but felt free to date someone who wasn’t paying me directly. I was careful never to lie to anyone, and all my partners (sugar and traditional) knew what the score was, but I’m lying if I say there wasn’t still jealousy and anger.
That first sugar daddy was a hell of a guy who taught me a lot, and when he and his wife decided to move out of state to retire, I was crushed. Now, I know what you’re thinking, and of course I considered the money that I was losing. Let’s be real, who wouldn’t?
But I was out way more than an allowance and some bling. It was weird, because I was very much in love with my boyfriend at the time, but I loved my sugar daddy too, and I was heartbroken when he left. And, no, helping me deal with that wasn’t easy for the boyfriend. Fortunately, he was a hell of a guy too.
Anyway, the money came back when I began seeing my next sugar daddy, and those that followed after him. I won’t lie, they were never hard to find, but I don’t want to make them sound disposable. I had real relationships with each and every one of these men, and I really cared about them.
My Camgirling Revolution
I also learned plenty, including, from one of them, that I should try my hand at camgirling. This particular sugar daddy had been at it awhile, and he knew that camming was a natural line of work for the girls he met.
When you’re a sugar baby, you really have to be available for your daddy full-time, but you do get to know his schedule and when he’s able to see you pretty quick. That usually leaves a lot of open hours scattered around the week, so a job that lets you work when you want to is ideal.
To be honest, camming was kinda crap when I first started. I had a garbage laptop at the time that barely worked with a low-res camera built in. I also had a truly horrific DSL connection, and I’m almost surprised I was able to broadcast at all.
The money also wasn’t great in the early days, and I considered quitting many times. But I knew I didn’t have the flexibility for a regular job, and I trusted the advice I’d gotten from my sugar daddy, so I stuck with it.
I gotta say, I’m seriously glad I did. I was already making good money sugaring, but within a couple of months, camgirling had doubled it. The first thing I did with the money I made was save it up so I could invest it back into the business, and upgrade my equipment. Things got even better after that.
It was through camming that I eventually sort of came full circle and discovered online-only sugar daddies. That’s just sugaring, but entirely online. So you just keep in touch with your sugar daddy by phone and over messaging apps like Skype, and of course on the cam site (which is where such relationships usually begin).
You don’t go out on real-world dates, though sometimes you might watch a movie or eat dinner “together” over webcam. Allowances are sent over Paypal, and gifts are shipped to your house directly.
I always laugh when I run into people who don’t think online-only sugaring is real, and that’s a lot of them. Don’t get me wrong, I understand the skepticism, but there are good reasons that guys want to do this. Remember when I said that most sugar daddies are married? That creates more problems for them than you might think.
A lot of them want a sugar baby, but don’t want to risk getting caught, or don’t want to “cheat”, or they just don’t have time for another in-person relationship because they’re with their wives so much. Trust me, this is for real. Nowadays, I don’t even sugar in real life anymore. It’s online-only for me!
So yeah, that’s pretty much how I got where I am. It hasn’t always been easy, and there are still challenges. Most of my friends and some of my family know what I do by now, so I have to deal with the stigma and judgment from them. But I wouldn’t trade camming and sugaring for the world. It’s all quite a ride.